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How to communicate your willingness to skeptical supporters

How to communicate your willingness to skeptical supporters
How to communicate your willingness to skeptical supporters

Dear Eric, I’m 54 and need to start looking for a job again due to outsourcing. My previous job was part-time. Now I have this fantastic full-time job. However, my friends and family think that full-time work would destroy me mentally. I think I’m up to the challenge. What should I do?

– Ready to work

Dear Ready: Ask them why they feel that way about your full-time work. It would be different if one person expressed reservations, but since you hear this from friends And Family, maybe you should give some credence to their worries.

They may have insights into your life or behavior that are insightful to you, even if it’s hard to hear. They may also misunderstand the truth about your situation. A conversation about why you’re excited about this job and why you feel ready can help change their mind.

If you decide to take the job after the interview, ask them if they are willing to help you succeed. How might working full-time stress you out or drain your energy? Are there ways the people you care about can ease the burden of working full-time? And what are the warning signs of a nervous breakdown? Ask them if there are any behaviors or symptoms that would set off alarms for them, and then establish a protocol for communicating those alarms. They should be able to address whatever they see and protect themselves from outside stressors and work overload.

Sometimes our support systems see things we don’t, and they can also help us achieve things we couldn’t on our own. Take advantage of the help of your friends and family and accept their advice with curiosity, trust, and openness. Good luck!

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